Finding the ethical way to act and behave in every party of my life is important to me. I feel we live in a world that suffers because there is a dangerous lack of respect for fellow human beings, life in general and the planet we live on. I’m currently thinking about how to eat more ethically. And I am always contemplating the consequences of my actions and in-actions. Non-violence, pacifism and justice for all are important to me and I don’t think they are lofty and unachievable ideals. Questions of gender, race and class, in my humble opinion, are at the core of the problems of our world. Basically, I’m this really high-minded, starry-eyed idealistic do-and-think-gooder.
And I laugh real loud and real hard when I watch this show:
Broken down by my critical-thinking mind, the first part of this clip is basically two men saying viciously (*hehehe*) hateful things to one another, giving a bad example of how couples should treat each other. And the other part is making light of sexual harassment, which is also not funny. (Don’t know what I mean? Switch the genders in the situation and you get from a situation perceived as humorous to the story of a creepy old guy who can’t keep his hands to himself.)
The show is called ‘Vicious’ and it’s a British sitcom. At the heart of the show is an elderly gay couple, who’ve been together for 48 years. The show focuses on their…let’s say ‘peculiar’ way of talking to each other, where seldom a kind word is spoken. They are portrayed by Ian McKellen and Derek Jacobi. These two are masterful actors. (I could use more words to say that, but it wouldn’t do them justice.) The two other series regulars are Frances de la Tour (masterful actress) and Iwan Rheon (who is 40 years younger than anybody else on the show and a great actor). The humor is mainly derived from the snappy dialogue between the characters. Freddy (McKellen) and Stuart (Jacobi) are vicious, Violet (de la Tour) is…ehm…horny and inept in her choice of partners, and Ash (Rheon) joins this crowd as the naive, not too bright, new neighbour, still trying to find out what to do with his life.
My mind tells me, I shouldn’t be enjoying this, because these people aren’t nice. But it’s so funny! What to do? Well, we should question why this is funny. If I would witness it in real life, I might be deeply shocked and offended. But when it’s on a stage, I laugh.
You might think that I will try to answer that question now, but I won’t. I’m just posing it, maybe even more to myself than to you, dear reader. But I advise you to check out this blog which is dealing with challenging our culture of violence and follow it: http://markcs1954blog.wordpress.com/
There you can think more about this question. As will I. But for now, being caught in this situation of thinking that something is not how it should be, but really enjoying it at the same time, I’ll go with Martin Luther: ‘Sin boldly!’ But never do it without knowing!
And here’s another clip: